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I read some form of a survey on a magazine months ago, asking random guys (I don't understand why they only asked guys and not girls) the question: “If you could cheat on your girlfriend and get away with it, would you do it?” Some answered yes, some answered no, but most of the guys had said that they would. So then I decided to ask my friends (both female and male) the very same question because I was mainly curious, and contrast to the results in the survey, most of my friends had said no (maybe it's cos I included females' point of views? ;p).

Their reasons varied between either one of these statements:
"I love my girlfriend/boyfriend too much, to do anything like that."
“I would not want it to happen to me, so why would I do it to someone else?”
“I'd feel very guilty whenever I’d see my girlfriend/boyfriend after that, and I wouldn’t be able to keep it to myself."

There were more, but these were the most popular reasons to why they would rather not cheat. I think it is quite cute that most of my friends were pretty conscious to the consequences of cheating.

It got me thinking about how easy it is to say no to cheating or any acts that may hurt our ‘partner’, when we aren’t currently faced with the situation. There are some people out there, who do not want to cheat, but when the temptation’s starring at them in the face, they easily give in.

Perhaps it relates to people’s inhibitory control, how well they are usually able to say no to other things like drugs, heavy drinking, inappropriate sexual intercourse, etc. Perhaps it relates to peoples’ self-esteem, how secure or insecure they are as a person may contribute to their lack of self-assurance in decision making. It may also relate to differences in peoples’ personalities, impulsivity may contribute to their lack of self-control. It may relate to how happy and fulfilled people feel they are in their relationship with their 'partner'. Or it may simply be due to boredom, thus anything new, arises the idea of excitement into their lives.

I think there are plenty more reasons to why people cheat and continue to do so in spite of the consequences. I find it quite fascinating how some people are able to say no, whilst others seem to struggle to resist the ‘temptation’ of cheating in the first place.